Your second initiation begins here

The Reclamation

For the woman who knows she is standing at a threshold – even if she can’t yet name it.

You didn’t find this page.

You were led to it.

Something in you has known for a while now. You are not lost. You are at a threshold.

A letter from your threshold guide

Dear Threshold Sister,

Something brought you to this page. And I have no doubt it runs much deeper than a Google search. There are times in a woman’s life when what once worked begins to fall away, and it can look (and feel) very much like things are unravelling.

From the outside, everything may look as it always has. But inside, something is stirring.

Maybe it’s a restlessness that refuses to go away. A grief without a specific target. A rage that surprises you. A numbness that doesn’t make sense.

Or maybe you’re not unravelling so much as awakening. Maybe the feeling isn’t dread – it’s electricity. A pull toward something extraordinary, if only you can keep yourself from running back to the familiar.

Whatever it is, it is growing louder. Harder to ignore.

Wherever you are on that spectrum, this moment has a meaning our culture no longer knows how to hold. It’s often treated as a crisis. Dismissed as perimenopause. Something to fix, medicate, or push through.

But if you listen more closely, you may begin to realise it’s a threshold.

And you are being called across it.

In the anthropology of initiation, the great life-stage crossings have always had a name and a rite of passage. The first was menarche – a girl into woman. This one is the second. The passage into something older, deeper, and far more powerful than anything you’ve been allowed to imagine for yourself yet.

The unravelling isn't the problem.

The unravelling is the beginning.

And the longing – that electric pull toward more – that is the beginning too.

Right now, you may be in what I call The Soup. The place where the old self has begun to dissolve, and the new one hasn’t yet taken shape. It is uncomfortable. We resist it. But the discomfort is a sign it’s working – activating the blueprint for the woman you’re becoming.

I know this because I’ve stood where you’re standing. I’ve worn the capable, functional, getting-it-done version of myself – and forgotten, for longer than I’d like to admit, that my own hands were still trying to grow back.

For over twenty years, as a therapist, coach, and now Threshold Guide, I’ve sat with women in this space. The ones who move through with the most grace are not the most prepared. They’re the ones who recognise they need a guide.

The Reclamation is a six-month initiation container for women standing exactly where you are. Built around the three classical phases of initiation: Separation, Liminality, and Incorporation. And it ends in ceremony – because you deserve the ritual our culture forgot to give you.

This isn’t a typical course with a syllabus to complete. There is no correct way to do it. There are themes, teachings, and explorations, but the focus is on the crossing.

If something in you said yes before your mind caught up – trust that

With love and fierce respect,

Becky ✨

where you are right now

You're not lost.

You're liminal.

She is tired in a way that sleep can’t answer. She has been incredibly competent, capable, and present. She has shown up, held it together, and always kept going. Yet somewhere in the middle of all that keeping going, she lost the thread back to herself.

Maybe she feels The Rage – the kind that comes out sideways, at the wrong person, at the wrong moment, at something small that doesn’t deserve it. Or maybe she doesn’t feel much at all anymore.

There might be a numbness that has quietly replaced everything she used to feel. The flatness that arrived so gradually she almost didn’t notice, until one day she realised she couldn’t remember the last time something moved her, or she felt joy.

The rage and the numbness are different sides of the same exhaustion – the system protecting itself from pain. What she doesn’t yet know is that the rage, the grief, the flatness, once she understands it, becomes the very fuel for the crossing.

And then there is the other woman.

She is waking up. Something is rising in her; she feels fierce, unapologetic, and for the first time in longer than she can remember, she is not trying to push it back down. She is done making herself smaller, done asking permission.

She can feel her own power gathering, and she is not afraid of it. The question she keeps returning to is: what is now possible?

Both arrived at the same threshold by different roads. One is ready to put something down, one ready to pick something up. Both are crossing toward the same place – their own power, their own knowing, the woman who was always there, buried beneath the layers.

This threshold has a name. It is your second initiation, and it was written into your body long before you knew it was coming. The most powerful crossing of your life. Wherever you are on this crossing, you are exactly where you need to be.

the container

Six months: Separation.

Liminality. Incorporation.

The Reclamation is a six-month initiation container. A held space that begins with intention and ends in ceremony – structured around the three phases of initiation found in every culture that has ever marked this moment.

Six months is not arbitrary. Insight does not equal transformation. You need time to find what’s been buried, yes – but you also need time to live it. To test it in your actual life. To stumble, to return, to build the boundaries that protect what’s growing.

To let your nervous system catch up with who you’re becoming.

You will move through this container with a small, intimate pack of women standing at the same threshold. A living thing – women witnessing each other’s crossing, reflecting each other’s original nature back, holding the thread when it gets hard to see. The Pack is the heart of The Reclamation.

For the woman who needs to journey privately – whether that’s a matter of readiness, logistics, or simply knowing herself well enough to know she crosses better alone – a 1:1 pathway exists. Same container, same depth, same ceremony. A private crossing, held entirely by Becky.

Some women cross once. Some return. The threshold keeps deepening.

This is your initiation.

the pack

You won't cross alone.

Something happens when women gather together that cannot be replicated anywhere else.

It is older than therapy. Older than coaching. Older than any modality or method.

It is the original technology – women witnessing each other, reflecting each other’s original nature back, holding the truth of who each other is when the fog of the crossing makes it hard to see clearly.

The women who cross with you in The Reclamation will become your pack. They were there when you crossed. They witnessed what you put down, and what you picked up.

They held you when you wanted to run back to the familiar.

They mirrored back what they could see in you, when you couldn’t see it yourself.

No judgement. No performance required. Just women, holding each other through the crossing.

Here is what women say about being held in this space:

When I first joined the circle I was in a place where I just didn’t feel like myself – external stresses had worn me down, I was perimenopausal, and I felt lost and unhappy. Over the months I felt myself come back to life. Something clicked, and I felt like I was able to see who I was again, what is important to me and, vitally, what makes me happy.

I have come a very long way – with a new acceptance of myself and clarity about what I want from my life. Becky’s knowledge and insight are the best resource you’ll ever tap into. The space she holds is so safe, welcoming, and warm. There really is magic in it.

jenny

I was in limbo – waiting on health results, burnt out from work, having just ended a relationship. It felt like a turning point. Since being in this space I’m beginning to reconnect with my creative self – reflecting with more curiosity and less judgment, listening to my body, and giving less of a shit about what I “should” be doing.

Becky is the perfect facilitator. Her warmth, understanding, and spirit are extraordinary – a true connector who creates a kind of magic where questioning and vulnerability become strengths. She’s the Firestarter.

ellen

I realised how isolated I’d made myself, but now I’ve got a close community of wonderful ladies who are so loving and supportive. Becky is hugely compassionate and charismatic, such a wonderful facilitator with a depth of knowledge on women’s issues.

serine

To be witnessed in your crossing is not a luxury. It is how women have always crossed.

Your threshold guide

I have made this crossing myself

I have spent over twenty years as an integrative therapist and coach, sitting with women at the edge of who they used to be.

At forty, my practice began to fill with women aged between forty and sixty, all telling me different versions of the same story. The restlessness, the unravelling. The unsettling sense of having become a stranger to themselves. I didn't know it then, but they were preparing me for what was coming.

At forty-two, it arrived. Three friends died in three consecutive months, all under fifty - it shook me. I had to take stock and look directly at my own mortality. Something in me began to shift in a way I recognised from the women I'd been sitting with.

The following year, I stopped drinking. What began as a month became a year, and that year became ten. It was one of the most significant thresholds of my life — not because of the alcohol itself, but because of what stopping it required me to face. Who was I without the numbing? What had I been keeping at bay?

The confrontation with those questions changed everything.

This past year, there has been an acceleration – a Women Who Run with the Wolves book circle that cracked something open. My daughter leaving for university. A sixteen-mile coastal walk, alone, in the aftermath of her leaving. And somewhere on that coastline, The Reclamation was born.

I know this terrain because I have walked it. I am still walking it. And I know what it means to have a guide who has been there – not someone who watched from a distance, but someone who knows the path from the inside.

That is what I offer you.

Integrative therapist, coach & Threshold Guide · 20+ years experience · NLP · Hypnotherapy · EMDR · Compassionate Inquiry · Somatic work · Facilitator of Women Who Run with the Wolves

The shape of the crossing

This is what the six months hold.

There are three movements to the crossing. You will not move through them in a straight line. You will spiral, revisit, go deeper. That is not a sign that something is wrong – that is the nature of initiation.

The Descent

This is where it begins. Here you can connect to the body, tune into your nervous system and discover how it communicates with you. You can stop, actually stop, and feel what's been waiting underneath all the motion. For some women this is a relief, and for others it's the most uncomfortable thing they've ever done. Here you will meet what's been buried – the parts of yourself that were set aside, silenced, or simply forgotten in the years of getting on with it. And here, for the woman who has felt something rising, something calling, this is where you finally turn toward it. The Soup is here – the dissolution that precedes becoming. This is not about breaking down, this is about breaking open.

The Deep Water

This is the middle – and the middle asks the most of you. This is where you meet what has been waiting. The parts of yourself that went underground. The shadow. The body's long-held wisdom. Beliefs that are ready to be questioned. The voice that has been trying to get your attention – whether it went quiet or got loud, you know it's there. The power that has been gathering, ready to be claimed. The grief you might have been carrying without knowing quite what it's for. The losses that never got a funeral. The rage that turns out not to be a problem but a guide. Creativity that is calling you. All of it is here to inform you. You will be held in this long enough for it to do what it came to do.

The Emergence

You will leave whole. The woman who emerges is the one who was always there, buried beneath the layers, waiting. She knows things now that cannot be unknown. She has been witnessed in her crossing and marked by ceremony. She is not finished, but she is awake, unafraid of her own power and ready for Act Two.

closing vision

She sleeps differently now. Makes decisions from a place she couldn’t always access before – her own knowing, her own inner compass, finally audible above the noise.

She says no with the quiet certainty of a woman who knows what she’s protecting. She says yes to things that once felt too big, too visible, too much.

She takes up space from a place she couldn’t find before. The Threshold of Power. The life ahead of her is lived from the inside out – in alignment, in authority, in deep connection with who she actually is.

the investment

You have been standing at this threshold long enough.

This is a commitment to your own crossing. To six months of being held, witnessed, and guided through the most powerful threshold of your adult life.

What you are saying yes to is a rite of passage – with a guide, with witnesses, with ceremony.

the group pathway

The Founding Circle

The Founding Circle is intentionally small. Intimacy requires it. When it is full, it is full.

£1,497

or 3 payments of £519 · or 6 payments of £259

✦ A journal and carefully chosen books, arriving at your door before the crossing begins

✦ Six months in the container, moving through Separation, Liminality, and Incorporation

✦ A Solar session each month – one hour of teaching and transmission

✦ A Lunar session each month – ninety minutes of circle, witnessed work, and ritual

✦ A 1:1 Initiation Session with Becky – crossing the threshold consciously and with intention

✦ A 1:1 Emergence Session at the close – a private witnessing of what has grown back

✦ Three guest speaker sessions bringing additional wisdom into the container

✦ Monthly videos, audios, and journal prompts

✦ A community space – connection and witnessing between calls

✦ A closing virtual ceremony – the witnessed crossing that completes the initiation

Optional add-on: monthly 1:1 session with Becky – £125 per session

the private pathway

For the woman who crosses privately

Same container, same depth, same ceremony. The Lunar circle becomes a private deep dive with Becky. Investment on application.

The crossing is now

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Questions at the threshold

Things women ask before they cross.

How do I know if I'm at a threshold?

A threshold rarely announces itself clearly, although it tends to arrive as a feeling first. A restlessness that won't settle, grief without a specific target, or a sense that the life you've been living no longer quite fits. Or perhaps it’s something more surprising, an electricity, a rising, a pull toward something you can't yet name.

Sometimes it arrives wrapped in something tangible – a marriage ending, children leaving home, a career change, a body changing in ways that can't be ignored, a bereavement that cracks something open, a milestone birthday that asks a question you haven't answered yet. Sometimes it's all of those at once, because midlife has a way of arranging it that way.

If you've been circling this page, returning to it, reading it again, that is information. The part of you that knows is already here. The question is whether you're ready to listen to her.

Is this right for me if I don’t feel like I’m in a crisis?

Absolutely. The Reclamation is not a crisis intervention – it’s an initiation container, and initiations don’t require you to be falling apart.

Some of the women who cross most powerfully arrive feeling electric and ready, not broken. If something is calling you toward this, that call is worth listening to. You don’t have to be at rock bottom to deserve a crossing.

Is this right for me if I'm completely overwhelmed right now?

Yes, but with one honest caveat: The Reclamation will ask you to slow down, not speed up. If you are in acute crisis, and by that I mean that you feel the ground is shifting so fast you can barely stand, then maybe this isn’t the best timing, but it is still worth a conversation. Message me, and we'll talk it through. The threshold will still be there. The question is whether this is the right moment for you to cross it.

I've done a lot of therapy and personal development. Will this be different?

Almost certainly. What you’ve already worked on will serve you here. Whilst there is an element of processing the past and acquiring new tools, that is not the primary purpose of this experience; it is a rite of passage. A container with a beginning, a crossing, and a ceremony that marks you as changed. Most women who come to The Reclamation will have done a lot on themselves already, but they won’t have done this before.

What's the time commitment each week?

Each month, you'll have two live sessions – a one-hour Solar session and a ninety-minute Lunar session. Beyond that, there are videos, audios, and journal prompts to work with in your own time. There is no rigid schedule for the between-session work; it's designed to weave into your life rather than sit on top of it. Roughly, you might set aside two to three hours a week. But this work has a way of happening in the margins too – in the walk, in the bath, in the quiet moment before sleep.

What about confidentiality? Is what I share in the group kept private?

Confidentiality is the foundation of the container. What is shared in the circle stays in the circle – this is not a guideline, it is a covenant that every woman agrees to before she enters. The Reclamation is a sacred space, and that means what happens inside it belongs to the women who were there. You will not be asked to share anything before you are ready. The pace of your opening is entirely up to you. Many women find that being witnessed in a small, trusted group is one of the most powerful experiences of their lives – but you get to find that out at your own pace, in your own time.

I'm not sure I can afford this right now

I hear this, and I want to be honest with you. Payment plans exist for exactly this reason – to make the crossing accessible without it feeling impossible. But I'd also gently invite you to sit with the question underneath the question. Because sometimes "I can't afford it" is true. And sometimes it's the part of us that would rather stay at the threshold than cross it. Only you know which one this is. If it's the former, let's talk – there may be a way. If it's the latter, that's worth knowing too.

What if it's not right for me?

The application process exists precisely so we can both feel into whether this is the right crossing at the right time. I take that discernment seriously – I would rather you didn't join than join before you're ready. If you do join and the early weeks feel uncomfortable and uncertain, that is not necessarily a sign that something is wrong. That is the beginning of the crossing, and it does need time to settle. If, after a couple of months, something significant has shifted in your circumstances, come and talk to me. We'll find a way through together.

What's the difference between the group pathway and the private pathway?

The group pathway moves through the container with a small, intimate pack of women — the Solar and Lunar sessions are held collectively, and the witnessing happens in community. The private pathway offers the same container, the same depth, the same ceremony, only held entirely between you and me. The Lunar circle becomes a private deep dive. Some women know immediately which one is theirs. If you're not sure, message me, and we'll find out together.

the crossing is now

She has been waiting long enough

You have circled this threshold for a while now. You have felt it, named it, set it aside, and come back to it.

Something brought you to this page, and something has kept you here. That is not accident. That is the part of you that already knows.